I love myself.
That is difficult statement to make. It seems to be so much easier to say, “I love you” to others in our lives. We look past all their mistakes and shortcomings and sincerely love them for who they are. Why then is it so hard to overlook our own mistakes and love ourselves?
You are an amazing being, worthy of love. Our faults, foibles, and fumbles shape who we are. You must own all of you and forgive yourself for mistakes, as they are there for a reason. Embrace your strengths and weakness. Everyone, no matter how they appear, are not perfect. And being imperfect, contrary to what is impressed upon us, is just fine.
Yet, tread lightly, as loving oneself must never be mistaken for arrogance. Arrogance is used to mask self-loathing and poor self-esteem. Those that truly love who they are, are never self-centered. The love that they show themselves also radiates to whomever they’re around. Their comforting energy attracts others who also possess these characteristics, as well as those who actively seek this singularity.
But be patient, such self-awareness takes time to master. One must acknowledge that no matter your circumstances you are exactly where you should be at this moment in the universe. Everything, good and bad, has shaped who you are and will continue to shape you everyday. By accepting this, you take control of who you are. The power is now yours. Use this knowledge and power to forgive yourself for mistakes, congratulate yourself for accomplishments and to love and take care of yourself everyday.
I recently overheard my girlfriend’s daughter playing in her room the other day and couldn’t help but smile. Molly was playing dress up. She was having trouble opening a jewelry box, but after trying for a bit, she got it open. “Good job Molly, you’re so smart” she said to herself out loud. Molly put on her favorite gown and jewels. She then looked at herself in the mirror and exclaimed, “Wow you look so beautiful.” Simple self-praise diminishes as we mature, but the need for it does not. Praise from others is nice to hear but how about praise from the most important person in your life–you.
Try this: Make it a practice to look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say something nice. Say it out loud and finish the statement by saying “I love you.” It will be uncomfortable at first, but like anything else, practice makes perfect.
You are absolutely worthy of receiving love, yet accepting and loving oneself is the seed that must be planted first.
Have a lovely February!